The maxim "know thyself" is applied to those whose boasts exceed what they are,"and that "know thyself" is a warning to pay no attention to the opinion of the multitude.[3]
For families in wedding planning mode, all the principle players need to heed this tidbit of Ancient advice. You'll have a multitude of opinions and personalities, and a few who may not have much experience working well with others.
Is your family made up of perfectionists? detail police? procrastinators? organizers? dreamers, or those ever frustrating non decision makers? All these folks can derail the best laid wedding plans! If you want smooth sailing, you need to get an accurate read on WHO is involved, and prepare to use their strengths!
We took advantage of one detail oriented family member, and kept weighing in with said person to see if we had missed anything. YES, this took humility, but it worked! This person DID think of things we hadn't, and was able to worry over it all a bit less because their insight was valued.
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One friend's daughter recently got married, and she (the Bride) spent a lot of time in the "dreaming" category, but not in the doing category. Get the person who likes to take action to make those phone calls! and don't expect the Bride will be driving the show just because she's the one getting married :).
Divide up the work along the lines of each person's personality, and when you have the luxury of hiring anyone to do things for you, be sure your personalities match up. Our Caterer was friendly and easy going, but was all business on the day of the event. He had ONE goal, and that was to be sure we and all our guests had a fabulous time! And we did!
And a final word to the M.O.B. if you do not tend to stay calm under fire, well...hire a wedding co-ordinator and step away. It's a BIG job. If you take it on, be sure to take care of yourself along the way, and keep in mind that the relationships are forever, and this wedding is only one day!
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